How to be honest without being harsh with your woman?
You all know what quickie sex is and most probably have tried it with a new partner or in long-term relationship. Length of the process isn`t the main indicator of having an amazing intimate time. A great quickie can bring a lot of exciting emotions and spark the relationship. But it should be done in the right way and with the right person to bring the results you expect.
If you are looking for fun and a one-night stand, you can try your luck on Tinder and other apps. There are girls who look for fun too. Or you may go to a cheesy bar and pick up girls there. But if you are looking for long-term relationship, it is not a good idea to start with.
How does it work in serious relationship? How to have quickies?
In order to have the best 10 minutes of your life, be prepared not only physically, but mentally too.
When you open a love novel, long descriptions of flirt and foreplay look fantastic. In real life one of the partners have a thought «Will this take long for you to finish?» fly through his or her head. Scientists also say that most of us would prefer an act which lasts less than fifteen minutes, including kisses and foreplay.
It sounds quite reasonable. Firstly, because both partners having a quickie do not bother being on top, which makes it brighter, than a usual «long» act. Secondly, the excitement is so high, that it has no time to get through all the stages of going up and down. You catch it on its peak. There isn`t really too much time to have full effects of a hot foreplay, but you should devote some time for it.
So, if you want the best quick sex, you can use the following quickie sex tips.
Kiss without embarrassment.
As sexotherapist Patty Britton says «Kissing activates the centre of excitement in the brain because it makes neural impulses fly at an unthinkable speed to the brain and from it to other parts of the body. The production of pleasure hormones begins instantly and strengthens sexual desire». It means that you must kiss your partner so passionately, as if you haven’t seen each other for ages. Your energy will go to her and come back to you. And then, while setting yourselves up after a stormy 10-minute lovemaking, you will keep wondering what has made you both lose your heads… The answer is simple – kisses.
How to have fast sex? Do not undress.
Do not waste precious time undressing. Pull away only the clothes, which prevent you from becoming one, lift up the hems and pull down the jeans and trousers. There are lots of positions that you can use even if there is no comfortable bed nearby, but choose the one that works for you both at the highest pleasure. It is the best time to use the moves, which your lover adores the most. The fact of being half-naked excites a lot.
Change the location.
Having a 5-minute sex in a usual bed will hardly give at least one of you unforgettable emotions. So, how about doing it on a washing machine? A kitchen table? In the child’s room while your child isn’t at home. Haven’t you tried having sex anywhere except your bedroom or shower? Shame on you! Don’t waste time and do wherever you want it.
New setting excites and makes your desire grow at the speed of light, especially if there is a chance to be caught by someone. However, in a more usual and safe setting when you are at home, new entourage will compensate for the possible discomfort. Having intimacy in the obvious place where you will be definitely caught is not a good idea, because anxiety doesn`t really spice things up. If you want it right here and right now, you will not care how hard the surface under your bodies is.
Think in «18+» category.
When you are trying to get excited as fast as possible, your brain helps you sending the right pictures. Make your thoughts dirty. Let your fantasies be so indecent as you can let yourself. No one will know what is inside your head anyway, so if you understand that quick sex is possible, turn on your inside video and imagine that you are doing it with either Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, but make yourself ready to act immediately. Even if you are already having a quick in your marital bedroom, you are free to imagine the tropical beach or in the toilet of a night club.
Comment on your actions.
So many people get excited by talks during sex. And if you are in the process of tearing off each other’s clothes, foul language can be a good companion, which really excites! Tell your partner how exactly you want her, or what you are going to do to her in half a minute. Express your intentions with any words, which come to your mind. You have to make sure that it excites your partner too, because if it is wish of only one person it is not going to work. Do not commit if at least one partner is not in the mood.
Do not focus on your looks
You maybe not so well-groomed as you would prepare, but do not think about it. Be persistent and stir her imagination. Just have fun and feel lucky to have such an adventurous partner.
Focusing on each other is the most important in quick sex. You have to concentrate on the wishes of you both together and each other’s separately. If one gets excited, the other will react with excitement as well. Leave long strokes and flirting for the time when you both find yourselves on the floor of the hall relaxed and calm.
I hope this guide to quick sex is going to bring you an idea on how to get excited with a partner and make the most of it!