Dating Coach: Helping You Achieve the Results You Desire
So often, men tell us they don’t need a dating coach. They just need the matches – women. They say they have no problem getting the dates or approaching women, but they just can’t find the one. Usually, when I ask them how long they have been searching for “the one,” they give different amounts of time – from a few months since their last relationship ended to several years of fruitful searching.
These men have no doubts that the problem is the lack of proper matches and not their dating strategy, approach, search criteria, or even flirting and communication skills.
They complain that the last several women they have briefly or not so briefly dated were not serious about marriage, too materialistic, manipulative, didn’t want to have children, or chose careers over relationships, etc. Yet when I ask these men who chose to approach, court, and date these women – to invest their love and time into relationships with them – the men blame it on chemistry, destiny, life circumstances, and feminism, but not on their own choices and actions.
Sometimes, men say we must find one perfect match, and magical chemistry that will appear out of thin air will do the rest.
They forget that soulmates are made, not found.
You have not only to find the suitable object to invest all your love in but to do it right: to create the right chemistry, to court a woman properly, to go through all the stages of a healthy relationship at the right pace, and to build a meaningful connection that will make your life so much happier and not more complicated.
A professional dating coach can help you do it all the right way and achieve the desired results.
Why Hire a Dating Coach?
You have already tried to find the right woman and build a happy, fulfilling relationship relying on your vision, strategy, and often stereotypes of how it should be. So why not get professional feedback on your attempts? Is there a pattern of mistakes that you keep making over and over again?
Sometimes, you must change your attitude and continue dating the same type of woman. And sometimes, you must drastically change the direction of your search to live the family life you want. A professional dating coach can help you see what is missing in your dating strategy.
For example, many singles concentrate too much on one or two negative qualities they think they’ve discovered on the date and ignore all the positive ones. So, after their first or second date, they decide this beautiful woman is not the right match because she doesn’t share any of his hobbies. He believes she hardly has any because when he asked her about her hobbies, it took her some time to think of the answer, and she couldn’t name anything exactly.
And a man dismisses a great potential match. If only he had asked her how she likes spending her free time, he would have learned that she loves taking long walks with her dog, reading, or watching some Netflix because she enjoys spending time in her cozy apartment and tidying up and redecorating. Sometimes, she experiments with new recipes because she likes cooking at home and sometimes goes to Pilates, yoga, or fitness classes. She enjoys trying new physical activities and may soon move to a salsa and bachata phase. But no, she doesn’t define all these interests as real hobbies because she usually doesn’t stick to just one or two activities for a long time, like, for example, her sister, who has collected orchids and has done watercolors since college.
This woman never tried skiing or went camping like the man in front of her, but this doesn’t make them incompatible.
Instead of concentrating on hobbies, this man should focus on long-term goals, including relationship goals, vision about money, leisure time, desire to have or not to have kids, life aspirations, romance, and personality.
Does this woman believe in traditional marriage? Does she want to have kids? When does she want to achieve this? Does it align with his vision and wishes? Is she attracted to him? Why?
How does she picture family? How does she see gender roles? Does she want to be a stay-at-home mother, or perhaps she wants to combine having a career and being a parent? Does she expect a man to be the main provider for the family, or maybe she believes in a partnership, which means splitting household, parenting, and financial responsibility?
A professional dating coach can help you learn to analyze your dates smartly. You will stop relying on fictional butterflies in the stomach that led you to heartbreaks and troubles so many times before. You will learn to distinguish smart chemistry and attraction from momentary, meaningless lust.
Main Benefits of Working with a Dating Coach
You will get professional feedback on your current dating strategy and practical recommendations for improving it. Our friends and family can hardly give us any helpful dating tips and advice. When your best friend met his wife, they were both in college, and it happened way before Tinder, so the whole dating market has drastically changed.
A professional dating coach can share practical tools to help you efficiently navigate modern dating.
Also, you will get a personal cheerleader who will be there for you when you feel love is not for you and help you be smart about your dating choices.
You will get honest feedback on why she has decided not to go with you on a second date. Was it you or her? What should you learn from this experience or move on in your search?
Meet Your Dating Coach: Svitlana Mukha
We will have a call with you to determine if we are a good client + dating coach match. Establishing a connection and being ready for thorough teamwork is vital.
We can start with the necessary practical changes to give you immediate date results. For example, one of my clients relied too much on asking questions. In his opinion, asking questions was the best tool to show interest, to get to know his date better, and to avoid awkward silence. In theory, it sounds like a solid approach. In real life, he got many first but few second and no third dates.
After a few sessions, we have changed his approach. Instead of bombing his dates with question after question and turning the date into an interrogation or a job interview, he has started working on creating actual chemistry while getting to know each other better.
Instead of asking a woman if she wanted to have kids, how soon did she want to have them, and would she consider taking maternity leave to properly care for the child while he continues his demanding career – and he did ask all this on the first date – now he would tell a woman about his dreams. He would say that he has invested so many years into getting his education and building his career, which he is proud of. Now, he feels ready to finally meet someone special and build a relationship that will hopefully lead to marriage and having children. He would talk about his parents and how his mother always chose family first, working very few hours per week and always being there for himself and his sister: football games, birthday parties, and plays. He would speak about his father, who loves his wife and kids to pieces and was always a rock in the family – providing financial stability and doing his best to give his children opportunities to try lots of fun experiences and get a fantastic education. He would speak about his sister, who is happily married, just like his mother, who has chosen family over building a career. He would talk about gathering with his family and playing with his nephews. He will honestly say that his dream is to create something similar: a happy, cozy family life in a big house in the suburbs.
Spend time chatting with friends every day to enhance friendship.
Then he will watch his date’s reaction: Does she share his dreams, or is she looking for something different? He would ask her then about her favorite family tradition since having a family is very important for my client. They will jump into discussing Christmas traditions. He will not forget to compliment a lady and share some flirty smiles, losing all the fear of moments of silence on a date, knowing that these moments are perfect for flirting and can also help build the first layer of chemistry.
With the other client, we can work on his online dating profiles, choosing the right photos and proper description of himself. After these changes, he will find out he can get quality dates online. We will prepare flirty stories and compliments with him that he will skillfully use to break the ice.
With the other client, we will learn how to prepare himself for the date correctly. He will learn not to work on some emails in the coffee shop until his date arrives. Because this way, he was always in the working mode and not in the flirting and courting the woman mode. Usually, he couldn’t build any chemistry because the date was already over by the time he had managed to switch the mode.
With every client, we will find necessary aspects of his dating life that should be improved to give him the results he wants and needs.
I never promise a magic pill to make every woman fall for you – I never lie to my clients. But as a dating coach, I can help you diagnose your dating life, find specific patterns, learn to analyze your dates smartly and pick the right woman to invest your love in. You will learn to determine and appreciate smart love and build healthy chemistry.
How Our Dating Coach Can Help the Matching Process with Eastern European Women
You will meet the right woman with the right mindset and be equipped with all the necessary tools. Without proper dating coaching, singles often walk past great candidates, unable to spot someone with similar values and long-term goals because they are too distracted by drama or unrealistic expectations, confusing them with love.
Successful Dating & Matchmaking Stories
Our clients love their privacy, and we respect and honor their wishes. Over the years, we have created over 150 marriages. Of course, we are grateful to our happy couples who agreed to talk about their experience working with us. We hope to see your testimonial on our website one day.
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We have no doubts that international couples have more flavors, colors, traditions, and romance in their relationship! Just think about it – they double all the holidays!
The Diolli Dating Advantage
We are the best choice if you are looking for an international boutique matchmaking service that bases its process on a psychological approach and will guard your privacy. We work with East European singles worldwide and have a high-quality database of Slavic women. But, of course, our main superpower is our experience, which can prevent our clients from making numerous mistakes when they choose very romantic international dating.
When Is the Best Time to Start Working with a Dating Coach?
Once you feel ready to enter the dating market and build a healthy relationship, we can help you understand supply and demand on the dating market, the types of singles you should and shouldn’t date, and why. You will also learn much about yourself, flirting, quality courting, and female psychology.
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