My dear reader, you already know some rules of flirting and understand exactly what to do. However, we have not told you about what NOT to do while flirting. Therefore, we offer you to look through the list of top 10 flirt fails to see what you should try to avoid while flirting.
If you were quite attentive, you understood that flirt is a certain way of communicating with the girl you like; so to be successful, it is enough not to say or discuss the following things:
What NOT to do while flirting
- Talk about your failures. Of course, you must be sincere, however, flirt is about fun and enjoyment, its main aim is to get the girl interested in you. Do you think that a sad story about your failures will make the girl think something other than: “He is so miserable! If he faces problems in the future, he is likely to avoid solving them, but will only whine and complain like a real loser.” Talking about your failures is one of the worst flirt fails also because you tell the girl about what you do not have instead of showing her your achievements (!), you are telling her that you do not have friends, job, money, happiness…
- Complain to the girl. This topic is close to the previous one, where you complain about your past. This time, you could get into complaining about your present. You surely can imagine and understand that trying to win the girl’s heart, you must be a real man, self-confident, and who can go through any difficulties. Only strong people keep their troubles to themselves without telling anyone and get over them with dignity.
- Complain about women. One of my dates said “My ex- was a real b…ch! She was stupid and could not cook well. She was not a patch on you!” Seriously? Of course, I was pleased to hear that I am so cool, but… Complaining about other women in your life and calling them swear names you let your present mistress understand that she can also be stupid, ugly, dumb skank when you have some problems. Moreover, if you say bad things about your ex-girl, especially, you prove to be a loser. You chose your ex-yourself, so you must take responsibility! In my personal opinion, this is one of the worst flirt fails that could happen.
- Boast about your achievements. It is true, that you have to tell the girl how good you are, but… it is very important to overdo with that and get into boasting. Do not wait for praise and do not try to look better than you really are. Successful men do not shout about their successes to the world and they do not need compliments and approval. If you want to interest the girl and not distract her from you, it is enough to say a few words about your achievements, but do not go too far not to make her think that you compete with her.
- Talk about yourself only. This is, probably, the worst of the worst flirt fails that can happen. How can a man forget that there is a beautiful girl next to him and keep talking about himself? If the girl asks you something, you eagerly tell about it, but do not ask the girl any questions to find out anything about her? Really? She does not ask anything, but you continue your tales… She is yawning, looking at the watch, but you do not notice… You are such an interesting narrator! Nope… that won’t do. Flirt means that you have a dialogue, not monologue. You have to not just tell about yourself and get the girl interested in you, but also show that you are interested in her too.
- Talk about your health problems. Nobody has perfect health. As doctors say: “There are no healthy people. There are people, who are unexamined.” But please, do not talk about it with the girl, you are flirting to. This makes you look boring, as well as tells the girl you are unlikely to have healthy offspring. Girls instinctively choose men for themselves, so if men tell they are not healthy, they automatically become uninteresting to women.
- Ask boring questions. “How many hours a day do you have to work?” She answers “Eight. Like everyone.” You have nothing to comment and just keep silence… Banal, boring, having no sense questions lead to flirt fails, so you should leave them for other people, who you do not see as your girlfriend.
- Say too many compliments. I agree that it is quite nice to hear a couple of compliments about oneself, however there is a limit to that. If you shower your girl with compliments, she will get tired and… bored again. Not what flirting is about. If you want to compliment the girl, say something at the right time. Do not invent anything, just stress on what you like about the girl’s actions or behavior moderately.
- Talk about your picking up a woman or sharing your secrets of seduction. Men, who are not professional pick-uppers, often suffer flirt fails telling about their hunting for women. We advise you not to tell the girl how you are going to seduce her, even if you are bursting with happiness that you have managed to begin flirting with her. You do not tell the fish which bait you are using to catch it, do you?
- Talk about men interests. Of course, there are girls, who like beer and football, but… Not everyone supports them. Let the men’s stay with men, so it is better to discuss something that the girl will definitely like, choose some common topic.
Finally, not to face any flirt fails, you must understand that your communication is interesting to both of you. You must not try to adapt to the girl’s interests only. Remember: YOU must enjoy the process. Therefore, choose the topics for discussion, which will grip both you and the girl, ask what the girl likes to do in life, what her hobbies are and you will have a chance to develop the communication.