12 sex etiquette rules every man should know
Many people don`t get sexual education at all or have lack of information. And only by the time they get the first intimacy, they start exploring their bodies and make some assumptions according to them.
Some guys have a blurred idea of how female anatomy looks like and take some cues from watching videos. If we have been taught about the rules of sex and some sexual manners, we could avoid a lot of discomfort and embarrassing situations.
Here are some things everyone should know about sex:
- Porn is not real life. It is ok to watch it sometimes, but do not try to repeat everything. Fortunately you are not going to film it, so you can be relaxed and do what you really like. It is good to diverse intimacy and you can even watch it together, but do not put too many expectations.
- Communication is a key. As soon as you talk about your preferences, you will enjoy the process. We are all different and everyone has something that turns them on. Find the way to share secrets.
- You should be physically compatible. There is no right number of acts you should have per week. If you both want it once a day or once a week and you are both satisfied, it is totally fine. But if one person is active, another one is ok with having intimacy once a month, there is going to be a problem.
- Learn to enjoy yourself and love your body first before you learn how to get pleasure from the other person.
There are some basic etiquette rules we do follow in everyday life like saying “thank you” and “sorry” in different situations. It is easy enough to learn, but what about sex methods and manners? It is going to be tricky, but believe it or not there even exists sexual etiquette which you have to follow.
To begin with, there are general sexual rules of how to behave yourself in bed. Let us look at them first.
- It is important to follow first time sex etiquette. Either it is your first time in general or with a particular partner, location is the key. Be prepared. It is recommended to discuss it beforehand or at least hint somehow not to put a lady in awkward situation. If you chose your place, prepare it in advance. Such small details as fresh linen, clean apartment, fresh towels and romantic atmosphere is going to contribute to setting a positive mood. Be gentle and do not experiment too much. You don`t know the person well enough to try something extraordinary. Usually first time intimacy is not so exciting. Partners do feel awkward, it`s a fact. Make love only when you are both mentally ready for it. The more intimacy you develop, the greater sex you will have. What to do after the first intercourse? Do not be in a rush, it is not a race and it is not the last time you see each other. You can have some pillow talks and just lie naked after the intercourse, cuddling.
- No shyness in bed. You must not be embarrassed with your body or think that some movements or positions are indecent. Confidence is important while having intimacy. To boost confidence you should take care of yourself. It is not about six-packs, it is about inner state as well. If you have a perfect body, but you lack confidence and you don`t know what to do, that`s really frustrating.
- You should follow an after sex etiquette too. It is important to touch your lady and tell something nice. Do not turn away from your partner and snore, or run to the shower to «clean yourself» as soon as possible.
- If you want to moan during, go ahead and express yourself. Such sounds will only bring excitement. Do you like when a girl shows satisfaction? It is always pleasant to hear pleasant moans. Females like to hear your voice too, do not be silent.
These were the rules, which have to be followed by both males and females. But we are more interested in telling you the rules which you, men, must know. So, let us continue and uncover some secrets of good manners in bed.
- The first thing you must remember is that you will hardly find a girl, who can get an orgasm in such short time, which you need to get pleasure. You must learn to make an act as long as she needs to get an orgasm.
- Before you start making love, you must leave enough time for foreplay, as this is when she can get the highest excitement. All coaches tell how important is a warm-up before the game or a training session. You cannot expect an amazing climax without a proper foreplay.
- If you want to be a real gentleman in bed, you must know that females do not like to change the positions very often. They prefer to change a couple of positions in a sexual act. So, do not swing and twirl your partner every now and then. It is just not sensible.
- It is very important for you to learn how to caress her in bed correctly. Try to read special literature to find out how to give your woman the highest pleasure. Find erogenous zones.
- It is not good to talk about business in bed or your problems. I am sure that intimacy is something, which has to evoke other thoughts. It is better not to talk at all, some interjections would be more appropriate.
- It is not polite to tell jokes about your her appearance. When she has decided to do something about the way she looks or is already in the process of doing it, any critics will discourage her and add more complexes of inferiority. It is also not good to discuss her bad traits of character in bed. If you do want to discuss this topic, think of choosing a better time.
- If you want to get real pleasure, do not try to make your partner do what she does not want to (of course if it is not a part of your role play). Be patient and listen to your partner’s wishes. In such a case you both will be satisfied.
- Finally, remember that intimacy with different females is different and you will not find a simple answer on the proper way to have sex with any girl in the world. That is because every woman has her own character and individual preferences which you, being a real gentleman, have to find and satisfy.
There are some universal sex games rules, but everything is individual for each particular couple as long as they are satisfied.