5 Behaviors Selfish People Display In A Relationship
Not everyone we are attracted to is able to make us happy showing consent and mutual respect. Unfortunately, many have to make a long way to learn how not to be selfish in a relationship and give rather than only take.
If you have noticed your partner only demand, without offering anything back, you have become a prisoner of “selfish relationships” and need some help either to stop or to change the situation for the better.
Having read our article, you will find the signs of a selfish person, and understand if your partner is ready to become your support when you need or wants to be in the limelight.
So, when your partner is selfish:
- They care more about your career, not you.
- You feel controlled with a loooooong list of strict rules.
- Your dear places their interests at the heart, rather than common ones.
- They sabotage your success not to be overshadowed.
- They never ask how YOUR day has gone.
If you have a constant feeling of being not so good for your beloved, which you are often told about, it is highly likely what you do is more interesting for them than you yourself. What is more, they are really interested in the benefits your activity could bring them personally. Isn’t that selfishness in relationships?
Narcissistic people expect a lot from others, and when their expectations are not met, what they feel is a deep reproach. Therefore, to make you at least try to fit in the ideal model, self-centered people make up a list of rules for their beloved, which they often neglect themselves. They do not consider how to care less in a relationship or how to care more… They do not even understand that behaving in such a way, egoists give rise to inequality, which harms your affinity and breeds anger, hatred as well as irritation.
Anyone, who knows no selfishness in love, and respects the person beside, appreciates team game and your opinion on different issues, especially the ones considering both of you. Your happiness is equally crucial as theirs.
On the other hand, self-centered people do quite opposite things. Their personal well-being is more important than common goals, and certainly far more significant than your life priorities. So, do not expect a narcissist to support you in the issues, which are of no or little interest to them, and do not promise any self-profit.
What is selfishness in a relationship? Definitely not sharing the gladness of your achievements; or being happy for you only until your successes do not surpass theirs. As soon as they feel the threat of being overshadowed by you since you have reached bigger heights, an egoist starts planning sabotage roll back your efforts, and considerably cool down your enthusiasm.
This could be done in different ways and with the help of different manipulations. As an example, they can “organize” a blazing row before a major presentation of yours or right 5 minutes before a business interview, not to give you the time to get ready properly and get distracted from reaching your goals.
Complaining to your dear about all those horrible people in the underground not wearing masks in the times of COVID-19 at rush hour, telling how stupid colleagues at work are getting on your nerves – is one of the greatest pleasures in this life. You deserve to have someone, who will not only want to know how your day has been but be all ears listening to your story, even if 90% of it is whining and nagging.
However, if your “love” goes on talking about themselves, not letting you say a word, and not even pretending to be interested in your matters, they are highly likely to be complete egoists, who prefer to always dominate and communicates with you only to feed their ego.
There are two more examples of inconsiderate behavior in a relationship showing that you are dating a narcist.
- You are always being interrupted.
- You have to beg to do what you like.
The inability to listen to other people is a sure sign of selfishness. I can only wish you luck in trying to tell a narcist about your feelings, worries, and views on this or that matter. Moreover, if your opinions differ, your partner will stand for their rights, rather than listening to you and trying to get into your shoes.
Being able to find a compromise is an important aspect of a healthy bond. If your partner is not ready to listen to your opinion, accept “no” as a response to their demands, or cultivate a sense of guilt in you when you do what you like but not much to their liking, then you should think about whether to continue such an affair.
If you have to beg to do something with you, it means that you will not be able to find a balance between your needs and the desires and needs of your partner.
So, how to deal with a selfish person in a relationship? If you see that your chosen one corresponds to each of these points, think carefully about whether this is the person with whom you can live happily ever after.
Valeria Matskevich With Love.