Nowadays it seems so easy to meet someone. You just need your smartphone and Internet access and in several minutes you are ready to swipe right and left, filter thousands of new smiling faces by height, age, eye colour and even political views or you just can text friends of your friends on Facebook. In theory with the globalization your chances to meet your perfect match are really high. Even if he or she lives in Tokyo or Kiev you are just one message away. In theory everything seems so easy, so why would singles need to hire a personal matchmaker if technology gives them extensive opportunities to do everything on their own for free?
How can a personal matchmaker make a difference?
Do you have this friend who is socially not awkward, good looking, easy-going, sweet, witty and successful professionally, but despite all these great qualities single? He or she is using online dating, goes out and doesn’t mind being introduced through friends, but still again ends up at the table for singles at a friend’s wedding listening to the old widow how she absolutely should introduce him or her to her freshly divorced niece or nephew. And this friend of yours politely declines the offer because last blind date arranged by the friend’s wife turned out to be a total disaster. So do you have this friend? Have you ever been in his position?
Today we will discuss 5 signs that you need a personal matchmaker
- You keep getting same unsatisfying results. Different singles end up with different results, but the point is they are not happy with the outcome. Some singles spend weeks talking to someone online and never actually bring this online communication to the next level – face-to-face offline meeting. Other singles after exchanging several messages actually meet their potential soul mate in person just to experience another super awkward one hour long acquaintance that makes them wonder if they should date at all or maybe just be grateful that they have loving parents, wonderful friends, favorite job and maybe all they need is a Chihuahua or a Persian cat? How about a personal matchmaker?
- Always stick to the same pattern. Do you feel like Bill Murray in the Groundhog Day? You exchange several messages, ask her out for lunch, share same stories, hear same questions, feel similar emotions and again absolutely lose interest after the date number three? She seems nice and interested, but again you can’t force yourself to pass through the “third date level” and like in an annoying computer game after failing at exactly the same place you have to start from the very beginning feeling totally frustrated. Or another scenario: after the date number two your dates keep giving you the same excuses: “I just don’t feel chemistry”, “You are a great guy and I would love to be your friend” or they just stop answering your messages and even block your number. Again you find yourself at the very beginning. Could a personal matchmaker really help you break this time loop?
- You always end up dating and breaking up with the same “wrong” type of people. We often hear people saying – “He or she is my type”, so we don’t think that it is wrong to have “our type” of people. I have a friend who has a thing for handsome narcissistic workaholic guys who keep breaking up with her right after she casually mentions she would love to “move in together / have a family / meet his mom / attend her friends wedding as a couple” giving her same excuses: “It’s not you it’s me”, “I am just not at that stage of my life yet and want to focus on my career”, “You deserve someone better than me”. My friend became a real professional at picking up such guys and ending up with nothing. So could a personal matchmaker really get her what she actually needs?
- You have tried it all. You have used ALL trendy dating apps and have a profile at all popular dating sites. You have watched numerous videos about pickup and modern dating and you have read several books about dating for busy professionals. Perhaps you have even attended numerous speed-dating events and have a golden membership at a mail-order bride website, but at the end of the day you are still single. What about a personal matchmaker? Can a professional end your fruitless search?
- You are using the same dating app for 3 years already. People can call you a veteran of Tinder or a mail-order bride website? You know by names all the customer service of your favorite dating site? Every Friday you pour yourself a glass of Chianti and debate whether to watch Netflix or spend an hour chatting to a stranger from Brazil? Online dating has turned into a routine for you? If the answers are “yes” and you are totally ok with such a scenario, then you can keep pretending that you have an active satisfying dating life. But what if you finally want to make a change? What if you finally want to meet someone real and special with whom you can share a bottle of Chianti, watch Netflix and make plans for Thanksgiving? In this case you should consider hiring a personal matchmaker.
Can a professional personal matchmaker really make a drastic change in your dating life? A personal matchmaker can’t introduce you to Megan Fox or Behati Prinsloo – they are out of the dating market. What can a personal matchmaker do for you?
- Show you why you are getting same unsatisfying results in dating.
- Suggest you ways to improve you dating strategy.
- Show you how to break the pattern and bring your game to the next level.
- Help you break the time loop.
- Show you why you keep attracting “toxic” people.
- Introduce you to the new type of people you have never dated.
- Help you attract “right people”.
- Save your time.
- Prevent and reduce stress.
- Get you real dates with high quality matches.
- Show you the “other way” in dating.
Svetlana Mukha, with love
September 21, 2018 at 12:10 am, Andrew Sachar said:
A common question I am asked by women is, why have I not had any children? The simple answer I give, in hopes of the subject being changed, is because I haven’t found the right woman yet. With so many women in the world, it’s much like playing the lottery; it will happen if it was meant to be. Besides, I am very optimistic with more chances still to win. However, sometimes my women friends can get pushy, telling me they know the “perfect” girl to set me up with. Problem solved, they claim. No, the problem is never solved because I keep getting set up with the wrong women. Let me tell you, many of these first dates are real nightmares! I have some of the greatest friends, but I am really getting tired of them trying to set me up. Maybe it is time to think about a personal matchmaker. Maybe a professional matchmaker can make a positive change in my life. Yes, I like the sound of that, very much! Especially when you consider the so called “perfect” women I have been set up with in the past by my friends.
1. (OCD) She was educated, well-traveled, and had an eye for fashion. The dinner was going surprisingly well, and then she asked me, “Am I OCD friendly?” I had no idea what she meant with OCD, so I had to guess, asking if she was an Orange County Diva or something like that??? Quickly I realized exactly what she meant, as she erupted with blood boiling anger, upset because she thought that I was making fun of her and her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Up until that moment, I did not have a clue that she had OCD and a bad temper. It was very fortunate for me to see “this side” of her on our first date. Sorry, this time it is you, and not me.
2. (10 Cats) I am a very good listener. In fact, I enjoy hearing a great story or two on a first date. But if you ever go on a date with a woman that has 10 cats, well, be prepared to hear about nothing else, only stories about all 10 of her cats. Let’s see, there’s Fluffy, Whiskers, Precious, Mittens, Paul, … of course, I had to laugh and tell her that Paul is a weird name for a cat. I mean really, what kind of a name is Paul for a cat? Unfortunately, she didn’t smile back. In fact, she become very angry and defensive, claiming that I must hate cats. She began to explain that to have a relationship with her, also meant having a relationship with her cats. She started to go psycho on me, on the first date, telling me that her and her cats can sense a cat hater, so don’t try to hide it. Out of curiosity, I asked her if she was OCD friendly.
3. (Too Good To Be True) This woman was beautiful, intelligent, smiled constantly, and gave the perfect amount of attention (verbally and physically). She was attentive and gave compliments while looking closely into my eyes and making casual contact. Flirty contact, but nothing too forward. The date was going GREAT! I wondered if this was chemistry, or too much champagne? Then the topic of children came up. She asked me if I had any children. I replied, no. She looked surprised. I asked if she had any children. She replied, yes, she had 5 children. Very surprised, my jaw dropped and hit the table. She explained that she had 5 children from 3 previous marriages. So to summarize, she was 30 years old, had 5 children, and had 3 previous marriages. After she told me this information, the attention she was giving began to seem much like a spider casting her web. I had no intention of becoming husband number 4 and giving her 5 more children.