Bisexual, asexual and so on: what to define as normal?
Most cultures have social norms regarding sexuality, and define normal sexuality as the one which consists only of certain sex acts between individuals who meet specific criteria of age, consanguinity, race/ethnicity, or social role. In this article we will define what are the types of sexuality, and types of asexuality.
In human beings, it is multifactorial, with several factors that interact: genes, hormones, conditioning, sexual preferences, emotions, cognitive processes, cultural context. The relative importance of each of these factors depends both on individual physiological characteristics, personal experience and aspects of the sociocultural environment.
We live in time of “sexual freedom”, “liberation” or “free love”. How many types of sexualities are there? Nowadays we have a large number of different types of sexuality. We’ll introduce you to some of them.
Bisexuality is when a person is attracted to two genders.
What does asexual mean? It is important to note that asexuality is not to be confused with celibacy. What is asexual person? A person who is not attracted to sex. Many asexuals across the globe choose to engage in sexual activity with a partner whom they love.
What is aromantic? It is a person who doesn`t have romantic feelings. The subject of romance and orientation is very abstract, so the labels become meaningless. Being aromantic doesn`t mean you are broken or it is something wrong with you. You just have a different experience of emotions. There is no special detector for “romanticism”, but if you noticed these signs, you might be identified as aromantic:
- You have never felt “butterflies in your stomach” towards other person. When friends tell you about their crushes, you don`t understand them.
- If you are in relationship, there is no romance. You don`t feel like writing morning texts to a significant one, a bouquet of flowers and organizing a date night with candles seems like a weird idea for you. Many couples still can be together if they are both like that. Because if one person dreams about a romantic evening and you dread even thinking about it, there might appear problems in establishing emotional connection. I know a couple from my personal experience, who encounters such a problem. A girl is very romantic, she likes organizing and setting the atmosphere at home even for simple dinner, but her husband doesn`t get it. He is very practical and says that it is a waste of money and efforts. Still they have been together for a long time, but she secretly wishes him to be at least a bit romantic. Another story of my friend. She met a guy on the Internet, but on a personal meeting he said straight away that there is not going to be a honeymoon period, no romantic walks in the park, no restaurants and flowers. He invited her to live with him on the first date, explaining that it is useless to walk and waste time, if she is not good in doing household chores, because he is looking for a wife. She was surprised by such approach, still she is a lady, who wants a man to surprise her, win her heart, not just moving in together after an hour of seeing each other.
- Novels, romantic TV series and love songs don`t appeal to you.
Pansexuals have the capability of attraction to others regardless of their gender, it might even involve a transgender.
Object sexuality – is focused on particular inanimate things. Those individuals may have feelings of attraction, love, and commitment to certain items or structures of their fixation.
For example, South Korean Lee Jin-gyu fell in love with his body pillow. The two were dating for six years before Jin-gyu took her to Japan to get married, where Fate-the-pillow even donned her own wedding dress.
Erika Eiffel, who obviously has taken her name from her partner, the Eiffel Tower, got married to the Eiffel tower in 2007. She fell in love with the Eiffel Tower in 2004 and states that she felt an immediate attraction. Before that, she was in a 20 year relationship with the Berlin Wall.
Human sexuality is the quality of being sexual and the way people experience and express themselves as sexual beings. Until their actions don`t hurt anyone it doesn`t matter what kind of sexuality they are if they are happy with it.