Having spent several years in marriage, you might notice that the amount and quality of sex goes down. However, if you want to keep it alive, try to use our sex tips.
We often hear that if you want to have more sex, you must try to be closer to your partner. Plan your mutual time, spend it eye to eye, do something pleasant for them and the fire will burn harder.
However, very often this advice does not work, since married couples spend time together without any arrangements; they share one bed, one kitchen, ask how their work is on a usual basis… and, of course, they feel fed up with closeness. This is when they need some space, because sex needs mystery and adventure.
Therefore, if you want to keep sex alive, you need creativity
Sex tip #1. Forget about bed. Imagine that having sex there is similar to losing a very important match. Find some other surfaces in your house, which you can use.
Sex tip #2. Say «No» to a routine sex at 11 or 12 at night, when all of your family have gone to bed and are fast asleep. Try to be spontaneous. Substitute your usual lunch with a colleague with a middle-day dating your partner. Wake up before your kids, go beyond the limits of usual schedule.
Sex tip #3. Use «dirty» language. Create secret e-mails, where you will send secret messages to each other. Send a special message to the partner in the morning, to make them fantasize about the forthcoming night.
Sex tip #4. Do not be shy. Have sex with the lights on and your eyes open. Look into each other’s eyes. Moan. Hearing each other’s pleased moaning, you will only heat yourselves.
Sex tip #5. Become a bit selfish. Think about the way you can get pleasure first, and then care about your partner.
Sex tip #6. Use one of the following psychological methods.
- Play a game, called «My desire fades when…». The idea is to finish the sentence with your own thoughts. For example:
– My desire fades, when I have to look through my e-mails before going to bed…
– My desire fades when I have to spend a lot of time cleaning teeth, taking vitamins and get ready to sleep.
– My desire fades, when I have to take 10 cushions off the bed, etc.
- Play a game, called “My desire arises when…”
– My desire arises when I dance.
– My desire arises when I describe what I want.
– My desire arises when I am in the fresh air, when I am meeting my friends.
– My desire arises when I am watching a good film, etc.
The idea of these is to talk about sex not talking about it directly. You will learn what makes you and your partner feel tired, or, on the other hand, rises mood and, of course, the desire.
Sex tip #7. Do not be shy to be sexy in the eyes of your children. Of course, you must not go too far; still you have to set an example of “healthy” sexuality in a loving family. Hold your hands, hug and kiss each other instead of hiding your feelings and your kids will not be afraid of these natural habits when they grow up and will have their own boyfriend or girlfriend.
As you can see, sex cannot follow a stable pattern, it has to be flexible; so if you want to keep sex alive in your marriage, you must understand what exactly it means for you. You must understand what you want to express through sex. It could be your way to escape from reality… Or, it could be a chance for you two to be naughty and have some fun. But the main thing you must remember is that sex is pleasure and it is not a responsibility. If you want to kill sex, make it your usual duty. If you want it to “live long and happily”, let it be free, creative and fresh.
September 06, 2018 at 2:43 pm, Andrew Sachar said:
If I may introduce a Sex Tip #8
Tell your lover exactly what you desire, what makes you crazy, through the words of a “Secret Admirer”. But be sure to give your lover a clue (secret word), so that they know it is in fact you sending these messages. Retain the fantasy of acting as a secret admirer while telling your most intimate desire. If you wish for more passion in your kisses, tell your lover so. Is there anything better than the first kiss? I believe so. Recreating that first kiss with added erotic pleasure and excitement. Can you remember back to those sexual frustrations, that built-up energy, waiting for that first kiss? You wonder, when will my lover kiss me? Will it be now, on our first date? Or will I have to wait, perhaps until the second or the third date?
Send your lover an email early in the day, pose as a secret admirer. For example, tell her how wonderful she looks today. Tell her how long it has been, how long you have adored her from a distance. Has it been a month, or several years? Tell her you cannot hide these feelings any longer. You cannot stand this torture, you must have a secret meeting with her. Tell her you plan on visiting her at her office, sometime later today. But how will she know it is you, her secret admirer? In your message, share with her a “secret word” and also how you wish to spend your time together.
Straight to the desire, I wish to kiss those luscious lips of yours. Behind closed doors, with you sitting on your desk, I wish for that first kiss. Up close and personal, your thighs wrapped around my body, your fingers through my hair, you pull my head closer to you. My hands on your knees, moving across the tops of your thighs up towards your hips, I kiss you softly at first, with increasing intensity and passion. Our body temperatures rise, heart beats race, I grab your hips and pull you closer to me. With our bodies pressed against one another, I feel the pulses of your excitement. Curiosity has drove you crazy all day, but now you have me in your presence. With arms around my neck, legs around my body, you have me securely in place. Tell me, what do you wish for? 🙂