When two loving people start any kind of relationship (married life, civil marriage or just dating), they do not even think that one day their feelings can fade. They believe that passion will be always with them. However long-term relationship tends to transform into a more kinship relationship, which is, of course, very good, however it is really important to save the “sparkle”, which appeared in the beginning.
How can you do that? Our tips will help you!
1. Try to keep passion in your relationship. Unfortunately the first sparkle, which united you, is not enough to make your love last forever. Routine life and problems make many couples forget about it, as it is difficult to remember the word “passion”, when your everyday conversations are about dinner. Still, it is possible to revive the excitement adding something new to your relationship. Believe me, there is no need to spend lots of money or plan a trip to Bahamas… You can start with a weekly walk to the places in your own city you have never been to. Even such a simple thing will give you a lot of topics for discussion and a chance to make common plans for the following weeks. You can also diversify your “trips”: go cycling, enjoy a day in the countryside, etc. What will make your long-term relationship refreshed is newness and being interested.
2. Do you want to stay connected? Then listen more than you talk. Imagine that you have come home with breathtaking news and your partner has not even looked at you sitting at the computer says “Yep… That’s great.” Or, hearing the news she hugs you, kisses and says “That’s amazing! I knew you could make it!” Which of two variants do you like more? The second one obviously. So, if you want your partner to behave like that, do the same. Be attentive, care about your woman; be interested in what she is telling, even if it is another story about her “stupid friend”.
3. Be ready to make a compromise. If, for some reason, your lady does not want to go to the cinema, saying she is tired and wants to relax at home, do not try to force her. At least you can offer her to have some rest and go later. Try to find the variant which will suit both of you. But if your lady agrees to go despite being tired, or sacrifices her plans for yours, do not forget to show your appreciation, since she has done it to make YOU happy.
Keep in mind that “global” issues like having children, moving to another city, etc. have to be discussed before starting long-term relationship.
4. Take your responsibilities seriously. Wishing to make your relationship last longer is not enough. You must do something to show your loyalty to your woman. Since if she is the one who always does the “dirty” job: sacrifices her interests, apologizes, listens to your problems and tries to solve them, asks about your feelings, while you do not respond in the same way, nothing will work out.
5. Another way to re-sparkle your routine long-term relationship is to recall the moments dear to your hearts. Look through the old photos, remember how it all began, and laugh at your love adventures. You can also turn on the music associated with some special moments: first dance, first kiss, etc.
6. It is also important to understand that the union of two people cannot exist at its peak all the time. So, to add some zest to your sexual life, for example, try to change the setting: go to a motel, have a night in the nature, or spend it in your car, enjoying the lights of the night city. If you do not want to go anywhere, create romantic atmosphere at home. Light the candles, order meals from the restaurant, turn on romantic music… And to finish your fantastic evening properly, take a bath together and go to bed decorated with rose petals. It will definitely help you brighten up and excite your long-term relationship.
7. You can also play role-games having discussed the details in advance. For example: a man is waiting for the woman at a set place with a bouquet of flowers. She is, of course, a little late. Then they take a long walk and have a dinner in a cozy café with live music. You can finish your gorgeous romantic evening in a pre-booked hotel. This adds some taste to routine, doesn’t it?
Finally, always remember that sitting doing nothing and watching your feelings fade away is not the way out. Love is a wonderful feeling between a man and a woman, so it is absolutely important to bring that initial sparkle through your long-term relationship.