Rules of Online Dating
Most users of the best online dating services say that the main reason for using these resources is the lack of time for romance in real life. People believe that before meeting someone really interesting in a club, park or bar, they have to spend a lot of time and effort on useless acquaintances and conversations while dating on the internet provides an opportunity to immediately find out about interests, hobbies, some character traits of the interlocutor.
Moreover, chatting online saves the awkwardness of a couple and allows people to feel much freer and more confident while having their first real rendezvous.
It happens with lightning speed … At first, you are in a state of complete euphoria that you have found “The ONE” on the net (although no one believed that it was possible) because according to her profile description she is “promising, successful, reads books, loves children and dreams to become a housewife”, but upon meeting you realize that a complete stranger having nothing in common with you is sitting opposite.
When you start thinking of how to be successful on online dating sites and build “living”, serious relationships, it’s easy to feel as if you’re drowning in nuances and don’t understand the rules of the game.
As you go from a simple like to the first meeting, remember our 7 “how to” dating online unspoken rules.
Don’t try to look better
Being exclusively online platforms, “find-your-mate” services create an atmosphere of deception; so, a too attractive picture and the absence of any drawbacks may indicate your desperation in search, or make other users think it is just some kind of bot.
Therefore, our first advice about dating on the internet is not to overdo with processing your image, as it is not real you. This is why you might be disappointed after the initial meeting and you are more likely to be left alone.
Think over the escape plan
When you first meet someone in person after web communication, there is a risk to spend an awful time awkwardly wondering what has made you go for spending a “romantic” evening with this person.
In such a situation, our advice about online dating has, actually, gone offline. Just in case, it is important to prepare an “escape” strategy so as not to hurt the person’s feelings and not to leave unnecessary questions.
Some general rules of escape: be polite (“Nice to meet you, but I have to go”), don’t tell implausible lies (“My cousin’s guinea pig has just fallen into the toilet”); never make false promises if you know exactly you will not keep them.
Don’t post too personal information
To tell the truth, one of the rules on dating sites states you cannot write personal data. What if someone inadequate is interested in you, and they persistently want to see you in reality? Do you really want them to have your name, place of work, and address where you live so that it is easier to find you?
Set a limit on how long you can stick to internet communication.
If you’re both interested, try to meet in person as soon as possible. If you both live in the same city, try not to keep your distance for more than a few weeks. Why?
Face-to-face meetings bring a completely different dimension to a nascent relationship and make it clear if you want to continue investing time in it or not.
Don’t ignore the warning bells.
The list of tips for online dating would not be full without this one. Give yourself permission to “see” with your eyes, mind, heart, and intuition. Pay attention to how the girl treats you, what she says, how she talks about her friends, etc. If you notice even mild discomfort, pay attention to it, and do not excuse the person in advance.
Pay attention not only to photos
There is always a natural urge to react to a cute girl’s profile and immediately ask her out. But are you sure you won’t waste your time? In the end, you will feel the desire to be close to someone who understands perfectly and who has similar interests with you. It is one of the most important rules of online dating!
Don’t get hung up on someone in the beginning.
Organize yourself several dates with different ladies, even if it doesn’t feel right. It is easier to make the right choice when we have the CHOICE. Otherwise, we will justify any shortcoming, statement, and deed, because we are really afraid of being left with nothing.
Remember that the ultimate goal of using internet services is to meet real people, and not waste all of your free time scanning profiles.
Finally, dating sites are not a panacea; it’s just another way to communicate with other people. Try it, have fun, but remember to bring your honesty, sincerity, self-love, and discretion.
Valeria Matskevich With Love.