Should You Have Sex on the First Date?

To be honest, one of the most controversial issues for every woman is having sex on the first date. It might be pretty usual for some girls and almost unacceptable for others. Furthermore, those, who have sex on the 1st date or combine it with sex are argued to be indecent. Perhaps, it’s related to the belief that the first meeting tends to be a crucial point of a romantic relationship and have a great effect on its building.

Therefore, we have conducted a survey among nearly 50 our female clients to figure out what their point of view is. There are a few stories we would like to share.

Maria: I try to make the gentleman find my background intriguing. I do my best to impress him. I’d like to show my potential sexual partner how well I flirt. Should you or is it okay to have sex on the first date? It seems like a complicated question. Actually, it depends on a wide range of different factors. Should the man misunderstand me or get me wrong or do something disgusting, nothing will happen. You may think I’m a promiscuous woman of loose morals, who is easily seduced and convinced to have intimacy, because I’m willing to turn our first meeting into sex and our date is likely to develop into a one night stand. Nevertheless, I’m confident, if I agree to meet the man, I’m interested in him.

Alina: I don’t really believe it’s a great idea. We’d better get to know each other. I’d like to know if we have something in common. It goes without saying haste makes waste. I couldn’t agree more! Besides, the positive, future-oriented sense of opportunity makes this approach attractive. My heart is likely to leap like a gazelle to see him again. Isn’t it exciting?

Anna: Well, to tell the truth, I did it several times in the hope it would be an exhilarating experience. Unfortunately, I was disappointed. However, one of my friends met her boyfriend at her cousin’s wedding. They slept together the night they got acquainted. You wouldn’t believe — they got married a year ago and now she’s pregnant. So now, they’re all into each other. They often joke that their “after the first date sex” has brought them happiness and love.

Sonya: I’m pretty convinced that only a person you fall in love with have a chance to become your best partner in life and in bed. Therefore, I don’t think it’s for me.

Evgenia: Our ancestors told their daughters to look after their clothes when they’re spick and span, and after their honor when they’re young. A young woman must remain chaste before marriage. You should keep your eyes wide open before marriage.

Katya: I’m a big fan of “Sex and the City”, the famous American TV show. Carrie Bradshaw had intimacy with the jam in her jellyroll right away. After that, she had been suffering for years before they got married. Still, the question of when to make love with a man depends on a woman’s personal world outlook, her family and cultural traditions. In my opinion, if you fall in love, it won’t be an issue to debate. You might feel chemistry from the very beginning.

Tanya: I would never do it with someone. I wouldn’t trust someone to put my best interests in mind — like preventing pregnancy and using proper protection — after knowing them for that short a period of time.

Olga: I’m an adamant supporter of sex when I feel like it. I hate that we’ve been socialized to withhold sex from men and use it as a dangling carrot. Treating sex like a prize or an arbitrary milestone teaches us to suppress our desires for the sake of gender and social norms.

Julia: I’m not exactly sure if the decision will be the same with every person I meet, but most likely no. Knowing somebody’s favorite meal or band isn’t enough for me to sleep with someone.