Things to Do Before You Start Dating
Following the road of life, you need to learn to leave behind everything
that complicates your way forward: bad memories and old grievances,
past mistakes and disappointments, and most importantly –
people who have proved in their words and deeds
that you no longer head in the same direction
Being lonely is difficult, especially if you have just finished a long-lasting affair, still, you should make good use of time preparing for the next dating steps. This could help you be ready for a better and healthier relationship.
Nevertheless, when you are single, it is the best moment to refresh and think of how to start a relationship without previous mistakes. Psychologists state if you don’t spend this period reasonably, you are very likely to get in the same situation as you were in with your ex.
Therefore, it is highly desirable to follow our dating tips for new relationships to succeed.
1.FOCUS ON YOURSELF.
It is substantial to pay attention to your own personality and self-development while you are lonely. Time changes us, so it is a great chance to find out how present you are different from you in the past. You could also spoil yourself and do something you have been looking forward to trying. The more you express your true self, the better you show and attract love.
2.MAKE OUT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.
Are you ready to go through a fresh stage? What should you not do while dating? What needs to be done?
Be selfish and understand what YOU want. The clearer your goals are as well as realizing what you need and what isn’t needed, the more likely you are to get it.
3.ANALYZE YOUR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP.
Everything in our life tends to repeat. This is why we need to start dating again only after we have learned something from our previous life. Spend a few moments evaluating what you had, do not judge or criticize your own actions, decide on what you would like to change to move forward in your newfound love bond.
4.THINK OVER THE IMPORTANT THINGS.
Answer the following questions to get a deeper understanding of what you really are like:
Did I ignore warning signs in the previous relationship?
Did I break up with her too early because I was afraid of becoming too close with my ex?
Did I spend too long waiting for something to change between us?
Did I lose myself?
Did I do all I could?
What shall I do to make everything better in the future?
Having answered these questions honestly, you will be able to define how to start dating and what to change not to make the same mistakes.
5.LET BYGONES BE BYGONES.
After splitting up with your ex-girlfriend, you must let her go. Otherwise, you have no chance to move forward if you are stuck in the past. Believe it or not, it’s true not only about love-relationships. Learn your lessons and leave all the unnecessary emotions behind. Focus on what you want to get in the future.
6.SOLVE ALL THE PROBLEMS.
Work on unsolved issues and find the solutions. If you do not do it, you are bound to always carry this burden making your life more difficult. So, do yourself a favor and work on it now, until you haven’t entered a new stage.
Concentrate on what you must do to become a better version of yourself. Think of all the nice things you could do next time. Get involved with the person, who might be your future partner. Everything can be better, but it begins with you.
7.STAY FOCUSED ON WHAT YOU WANT TO ATTRACT.
If you want your love-partner to possess stability, create it in your own life. Do you wish for passion? Add more passion to your own reality. Like attracts like.
8.LISTEN TO YOUR CLOSE PEOPLE.
No matter how wonderful your connection with a girl is, your family knows well what you need. Of course, they do not understand what feelings you had, but they do not need it. Consequently, do not reject advice from your friends and relatives saying “You don’t understand. It is different. Nobody else has such a bond!” They do not care! They want to help you get over it and in contrast to you, they are not blinded by despair and see everything clearly.
9.DO NOT RUSH INTO NEW RELATIONSHIPS.
It is very unlikely that another girl has a desire to be your lifeboat, the medium to cease your pain and forget the old days. What is more, by doing so, you risk drowning in an affair, which is bound to fail as it is not about love but about looking for someone to comfort you.
10.OPEN YOUR HEART TO FRESH EMOTIONS.
You might think: how do I know when to start dating again? There is no special date or sign. You just feel it inside and you know the right moment has come. At this very moment, set your mind free and give in to your intuition.
Good luck to you!
Valeria Matsckevich with Love.