Tips from matchmaker to men who are done with tinder
Single men who are looking for love might know Tinder or even tried it before. We have diversity of dating sites nowadays that offer various of services and different kind of help in this not an easy task to find the love of your life.
I work at a matchmaking agency and have seen many clients who came to our office frustrated after using dating sites. Some of them were typically scammed, others just wasted much time and were still single. I don`t want to tell that it doesn`t work. Actually it does but not for everyone. I have even an example among my friends. Let`s call her Anna. She just broke up with her boyfriend. They were together for three years. After breaking up Anna barely survived separation. It was hard time for her. After some period of time she decides to try a luck on Tinder just for fun and to entertain herself.
She didn`t want anything serious after long lasting relationship. I remember clearly that her first date didn`t go well. From Anna`s story a date took off his shoes and simply put his feet on a chair in cafe. Of course it was the first and the last date with that guy. She decided to try a luck one more time and her next date definitely was more successful. I remember her words: the date was great but the guy was too handsome. I want to draw your attention that ladies are afraid of too handsome guys.
One of my female friend found her soulmate on Tinder too. She was in a relationship with a Ukrainian guy, but it was not successful. She knows several foreign languages (Spanish, English and German). So she had always been dreaming to marry a foreigner. She had some experience of working abroad and she likes the mentality of European men. She came to Dubai to work in one of the hotels and registered in Tinder, as it was popular among the residents. She went on countless dates. I think she can write a book full of funny stories. Once a very handsome gentleman invited her for a “coffee date”, but actually he hates coffee and didn`t pay for her cup of cappuccino.
Another gentleman wanted to meet on the beach, explaining it was too hot outside and that they could cool down in the pool. It was a bit strange date idea, so she refused. One of the gentlemen decided to show off his psychological skills, so he was trying different tricks on her, which looked more like a lecture on psychology rather than a date. She almost lost her hope to find a good guy, when she decided to try the last time. That last time was the most successful. She met her future husband. It was an ordinary date, but there was something special about him. He was not asking usual questions like on an interview. He was genuinely engaged in a conversation, which was naturally flowing. He impressed her with his care and enthusiasm. He is from Spain, so they communicated in English and sometimes Spanish. He also knew a bit of Russian. They have been in relationship for almost a year now. They got married last summer.
Don`t try to impress her only by your look. The long story short Anna is still together with the handsome guy and they just moved in together after a year of dating. I assume that the less you expect the more you get.
Less expectations. Tinder is for men who haven`t decided yet if they are ready to settle down. They keep playing lottery and think what if…
Be serious in your intentions. Ask yourself is it what you really want? And if the answer is positive, go for it.
Do actions. You decide for yourself that you are ready to build a family. At the same time you are continuing to live in a small apartment in a not friendly neighborhood. Or you are dreaming about a model looking wife but is overweight yourself. Time for changes. Put some efforts first, move to another area, buy a membership to a gym and you will see the universe will double pay you.
Invest in your life. I don`t speak about money (but be ready that you will need it as well) I speak about time. There is always no right time for arranging your private life. There are always so many different, “more important” tasks to do. But how you know, time flies.
If you have decided to search for a partner in Tinder, you have to be patient and picky. You have to devote enough time to choose the right one. Someone is lucky to find a soulmate just after several dates, someone just gets frustrated after dozens of attempts and some keep on trying again and again without any success.
There are even Tinder guides, which usually teach you different tricks how to be successful on a Tinder date, how to impress a new person, how to be charming and unforgettable. It costs money, but it doesn’t give you any guarantee on a happy end. But anyway, you can learn something useful for yourself!
There is a lot of scam too, which you have to be aware of. Any person who has a smartphone can be a member of a dating site or an app. It doesn’t mean that this person has good intentions. There are different scam categories that you have to learn about in order to save yourself from being scammed.
- Professional scammers. Women who usually have the best profiles with photoshopped pictures. Tinder is full of such ladies. They will be attracted to rich guys, who can bring a huge bouquet of flowers on the first date. One of my distant acquaintances agrees to meet a guy only if he has a car and can pick her up. Usually she chooses the most expensive and luxurious restaurant, where she spends his money on the most expensive dish and drink. After that she directly asks for some funds for her sick grandma, broken phone or just Spa procedures. Those who refuse to give her money, she puts on a black list and never meets them again. After receiving certain amount of benefits, she disappears and explains it that they are just not compatible after some time later. And then she searches for another one. She might even have different accounts with different names.
- Virtual girls. These are the ones, who do not turn online communication into something real. They are comfortable with virtual relationship. They might even have fake pictures and not a real personal information. They maybe just bored and search for some entertainment or they were recently heart-broken and escape from reality.
- Sugar-daddy`s girls. They are not hiding their intentions. They are usually very young and they are interested in men who are 15-20 years older. They are ready to share your bank account and accept expensive gifts.
- Shy females. They usually have only 1 avatar photo. They wouldn`t open up very quickly, they have to have a reason to trust you.
Don`t wait too long. You deserve to be happy today. If you are serious about building a family and live happily ever after, entrust this delicate task to the professionals. Advantages of the professional matchmaking agency are always privacy, quality, efficiency and professionalism. You are not alone in this journey, you are guided by a professional matchmaker who gives you a proper dating advice.
You don’t have to spend much time on a search, you will be given a list of candidates, who maybe potentially compatible with you taking into consideration your occupation, hobbies, personal characteristics and preferences on appearance. Looks do matter, but it is not the key factors in matchmaking process. You will receive the best dating tips from a matchmaker, which will help you to get familiar with peculiarities of other culture, relationship advice in general and coaching throughout the whole process. You will get assistance before the dates with organizing restaurant reservations, flower bouquets, a professional interpreter and a driver. You don`t have to worry about the organizational moments.
It`s a really effective way to find the love of your life with matchmaking tips.