Top questions to ask a potential matchmaker
Nowadays a lot of people search for love in the Internet, some people prefer local dating, but more and more people are eager to have international relationship. Here comes a question how to do it efficiently? As there are so many different sources and apps, which you may use. It might be successful if you devote much time and pay attention to lots of details, choosing among hundreds of beautiful profiles. And you don`t have any guarantees that those ladies with hot profile pictures are going to be interested in you and are single in fact. You may encounter lots of scam and frustration.
Trying to find yourself a wife abroad, you might want to use an international agency. However, the first time this idea gets into your head, you might face another one: all these agencies are scammers. To tell you the truth, some of them can be scammers; still there are plenty of decent professionals who help you find your true love. If you want to know how not to get hooked, you must definitely read our article.
The first and the most important question to ask a matchmaker is whether they are signing a contract with you. If it does, it is the first reason to start cooperation.
Secondly, you should ask a matchmaker to show the results of their work. These may be different certificates and of course the so-called stories of success. It is good if they show you the photos of the couples they have managed to create or videos, which prove their strategy to be effective.
It is also good to ask a matchmaker to show you the team of people who do the work – translators, interpreters, psychologists, personal assistants, etc. if the company is reliable, you either are going to be introduced to the staff, or shown a kind of portfolio, in which you have a chance to look at the people, who are going to work with you. Usually there is a Youtube channel, which broadcasts updated videos of the whole team. You may subscribe and give yourself time to watch their videos. You may also follow their social media pages, where you may see daily posts on dating tips and stories. It develops your trust to the company while getting familiar with a content.
Another question, a very important one, to ask a matchmaker is how they choose the girls. How they check their personal data, photos which reflect up-to-date looks, etc. in case you can trust the agency, you are told about this procedure in details. A reliable company has to conduct interviews with ladies and check their single/married status, which is proved by a respective document. Also they give a detailed information about their current occupation, hobbies and preferences as for the future partner.
You should check if the company has the official certification provided by the Matchmaking Institute, which is located in New York city. It`s the only school for matchmaking in the US which is accredited by the state of New York, providing certifications to matchmakers from all over the world.
A matchmaker during a Skype interview should ask you the following questions:
- Why have you chosen international matchmaking? Why not a local one? This question is asked in order to find out if you really understand the responsibility of the whole process that involves coming to a completely different country with new culture and traditions.
- How long have you been single or divorced? It helps us to understand how mentally ready you are for a new relationship. If you have just broken up with a girlfriend, you will be recommended to wait. It is a sign of a professional approach. If you are still encouraged to continue the process, it is a possible scam.
- Which personal characteristics of a lady attract you and which ones push you away? It will help to choose a partner who is potentially compatible with you. Preferences as for appearance are taken into consideration too, but it is not the main priority.
- What do you expect from a new relationship? Do you want kids if you don`t have any or do you want more if you already have? It is an important factor too, because some ladies are searching for a partner in order to create a family and kids. Some are not willing to have children anymore.
- Are you aware of any cultural traditions and rules of courting of the country you are going to? If not, you are going to receive coaching to prepare you for international dates.
Of course, when you go to a foreign country, you must find out how you are going to communicate with the girls in case they do not know your language. The answer must be that you are going to be given any assistance and support including an interpreter, a personal driver and a psychologist.
When you finally made a decision of hiring a matchmaker, you must ask for the contract and find out which services you pay for. Usually, they give full support to every client, meaning that the candidates he sees meet his expectations; the client is also given psychological, interpreting support and coaching as for the dates. The agency can offer you several packs of services and you have to choose the one you like most. You are supported with advice throughout the whole process, starting from the beginning of the date to engagement. You may contact the agency even after going back to your home country and receive support in communicating with a lady after.
It is also necessary to ask a matchmaker about the risks and guarantees. Company must guarantee to fulfill its duties according to the contract you sign. In this contract you also have an article devoted to any risks that both parties can face.
Finally, I want you to understand clearly that there is no an international marriage agency that can state that you will get married immediately after signing the contract. Why? Because a matchmaking agency is an instrument which you use to find a partner you like, build relationship and maybe get married. As people say, marriages are made in heaven and asking a matchmaking agency for help, you can be sure that you are going to meet decent women and any assistance to build relationship with them. Speaking of marriage, we leave this to God.