“We need to have a serious talk” – it`s one of the most scariest beginning of conversation for people in a relationship, isn`t it?
When it`s perfect time to talk with your partner about the future together and share your family goals?
Timing is everything when it comes to talking about the future.
Unfortunately nobody can tell you that the perfect time will be exactly on a 23rd date for example or after spending a vacation together you can finally voice your family goals to your partner. Nobody knows when it`s better to do. You should listen to your instincts to choose a perfect time.
But there`s one advice: it should be not too early and not too late!
If you bring serious questions up too early you might scare your partner. If you feel that you and your partner are in the same place in a relationship you can appear with a serious conversation.
Talking about family goals would be appropriate on an early stage in a case you were matched with your second half by a matchmaking agency, where you supposed to be matched according to your values, family goals and so on.
When it`s time to put everything on the table, try to happen it naturally. If you feel that something is going wrong or your partner isn`t in the mood right now, don`t force it, would be better to postpone the conversation.
On the other hand, don`t wait too long to discuss the future plans and family values. Don`t be afraid to come up with a serious conversation. I`m sure you don`t want to fall in love and get closer with a person who has totally opposite vision on the future. In that case you will be unnecessary hurt and waste your time as well.
One of the great things about being in a relationship with someone is essentially building a life together. Be honest with yourself and with your partner. Don`t lie to yourself about the situation you are in. Don`t be afraid to find out the truth.
Be honest and say what you really feel, then really listen to what your partner is saying. It`s a great opportunity to know your soul mate better. Let your partner to talk. One family therapist said, “As an effective listener, you are able to help your partner discover her/his feelings.”
Ask questions if something isn`t clear to you. Don`t jump to conclusions. Take your time to overthink about the information you have got.
Communication is a really big deal for a relationship to work.
If you are afraid to speak about the future plans with the person you want to build a family, then maybe this isn’t the relationship for you.